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Pakistani
cricket legend turned social crusader, Imran Khan, drove to the
Karakoram mountains with close family friends the day after he announced
his divorce from his beautiful British socialite bride, Jemima Goldsmith.
These were the same mountains Khan and Goldsmith had honeymooned
in nine years ago, following their fairytale-style marriage in Richmond,
south-west London, in 1995.
Jemima,
the daughter of billionaire British financier, Sir James Goldsmith,
was 21, and Imran 42, when they married. Their union caused quite
a stir in both Britain and Pakistan. The fact that Jemima converted
to Islam after the wedding and changed her name to Jamila Haiqa
may have placated her husband's political opponents, but her open
championship of the Palestinian cause in newspaper articles, given
her Jewish heritage, raised fierce criticism amongst certain Zionist
quarters.
The
country's biggest celebrity split was announced through Imran's
political party, Tehrik-e-Insaaf's (Movement for Justice) spokesman.
"I sadly announce that Jemima and I have divorced," read
Imran's written statement. "This was a mutual decision, and
is clearly very sad for both of us. My home and my future is in
Pakistan. Whilst Jemima tried her best to settle here, my political
life made it difficult for her to adapt to life in Pakistan."
Most
of Imran's family members and close friends sum up the denouement
of the couple's nine-year-long relationship as "the end of
a fairytale." The divorce, however, has been amicable. "Imran
and Jemima still love each other very much, and the divorce doesn't
mean they have cut off all contact," says Yousuf Salahuddin,
one of the close family friends who joined Khan on his mountaineering
trip. "Imran is planning to travel to London to spend some
time with his two sons, and will meet Jemima there. They are both
mature and educated, and know how to separate in a civilised way."
According
to Salahuddin, Jemima spoke to him for at least two hours from London,
just one day before their divorce was announced. "Jemima is
very sad about the split," he said.
According
to Pakistani family law, a couple going through the process of divorce
must serve a notice, along with the divorce deed, to their spouse
through an Arbitration Council, or Family Court. The court then
summons both parties within a 90-day period, for the purpose of
attempting a reconciliation. If both parties refuse to reconcile,
the divorce stands confirmed. As Jemima is not in Pakistan, however,
Imran is legally permitted to serve her with divorce papers directly
through an attorney or through the British High Commission in Pakistan.
It is not clear yet which channel Khan has chosen to formalise his
divorce.
Khan's
short press statement offered no details on who would retain custody
of the couple's two children, 5-year-old Kasim and 7-year-old Suleiman.
Friends of the family state that the couple have mutually settled
all contentious issues, including those affecting their children.
According to Salahuddin, both Suleiman and Kasim would live with
Jemima and visit Imran in Pakistan during the winters. "Both
children are in a sensitive age bracket and need their mothers'
care more than anything else," he said.
According
to one of Imran's four sisters, their octogenarian father, Ikramullah
Niazi, remained confined to his room all day when he heard the divorce
had been finalised. "We are all very sad for our brother, but
it was his own personal decision," she said. "Jemima is
such a loveable person, and nobody can criticise her. We will always
miss her."
Imran
and Jemima's fairytale, cross-cultural and inter-faith marriage
was the victim of many scandals, from those involving Imran's past
relationships with other women, to accusations of Jemima smuggling
valuable antiques out of the country. Jemima was also charged with
being a Zionist agent by Pakistani politicians looking to discredit
Imran, as well as being a student of the blasphemer author of The
Satanic Verses, Salman Rushdie.
To prove her critics wrong, Jemima started work on an aid
project for Afghan refugees in Jalozai, Peshawar - an initiative
which landed her a job as UNICEF's UK Special Representative in
September, 2001. Her work took her to Palestine and Afghanistan
last year. Other philanthropic deeds included contributing the profits
of her embroidered couture line to the Shaukat Khanum Cancer Hospital,
set up by Imran in memory of his mother who had died of cancer.
The couple's high-profile marriage became the talk of the
town once again when Jemima moved back to London in December last
year, and enrolled for a master's degree at the School of Oriental
and African Studies (SOAS). Rumours that the couple's relationship
was on the rocks as a result of Imran's alleged admission to the
paternity of Sita White's daughter, Tyrian Jade, were rife, compelling
Jemima to place an advertisement in the newspapers in an attempt
to refute claims that the couple was experiencing marital difficulties.
The latest controversy surrounding the marriage revolves
around Jemima's new relationship with Hollywood star, Hugh Grant,
a British actor famous for his reputation as a ladies man, after
he was recently spotted leaving a high-society club in London with
a mini-skirted Jemima in tow.
Most
of Imran's family friends, however, deny that a third party was
responsible for the break-up of the couple. "This is not the
first time that either Imran or Jemima have been charged with having
extra-marital affairs. The marriage was chock-a-block with similar
scandals," says a close friend of the former couple. "Jemima
went out with Grant accompanied by, at least, three other people,"
he clarified.
While British tabloids are notorious for engaging in character
assassinations and mud-slinging in an attempt to boost sales, the
Imran/Jemima split has seen even broadsheets stooping to sensational
embellishments and racial stereotyping. Reports in The Guardian
claim that the marriage caused Jemima to transform from a high-class
socialite to a dowdy third-world housewife living in front of a
kitchen sink. Although it is true the couple had chosen to settle
in Imran's family home in Lahore after their marriage, they moved
to an upscale locality near the lush-green Margalla hills, in Islamabad,
in early 2000.
Quelling claims that Jemima found it difficult to adapt to
Pakistan's culture, Salahuddin maintains, "Jemima never found
it difficult to cover-up after she converted to Islam and chose
to live with Imran." Eager to fit in, Jemima took lessons in
Urdu for three years and proved a talented pupil, even speaking
in the local lingo while campaigning for her husband's election
in October 2002. "I said a few lines in Pashto at one of the
jalsas we went to in the Frontier, but I'm not fluent at all,"
a humble Jemima said in one of her interviews published last year
in a local magazine.
According to Salahuddin, Jemima found it difficult to stay
in Pakistan because of sensitivity to the weather. "Every time
Jemima came to Pakistan, she would fall ill. She particularly suffered
from amoebic dysentery. When she visited in April, she was hospitalised
for three days."
"When our own girls of Pakistani origin, raised in the
west, cannot live in Pakistan, how can a white girl be expected
to live here permanently?" asks Imran's sister. "Jemima
began to spend more and more time in London with her family, and
has been living there permanently for the past year-and-a-half.
She is very close to her family, just like our brother."
Imran,
meanwhile, contended his life, and future, were in Pakistan
Rumours of divorce circulated once again when Imran was conspicuously
absent at his wife's 30th birthday party, attended by many British
celebrities, including Grant. "Imran runs a huge cancer hospital
in Lahore, heads a political party, and has recently become a parliamentarian.
These duties take away most of his time," said Salahuddin.
According to his friends, Imran had discussed his marital
difficulties with them a few month ago, saying he could not sail
two boats. "I cannot settle in London and Jemima cannot live
in Pakistan. There is no option left."
Now divorced, the once again single-and-unwilling-to-mingle
Imran is free to focus entirely on his political agenda. Plans are
also underway to set-up another hospital in Karachi, and a university
in Mianwali, Imran's hometown, from where he was elected member
of parliament for the first time in the October 2002 elections.
And according to the nation's erstwhile heart-throb, "the
sacrifice is worth it."
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